In the novel, Fermina falls in love with Florentino and builds a strong relationship with him. She soon realizes that what is between them is nothing more than an illusion. On the other hand, when Fermina speaks with Dr. Urbino, she is disgraced with his behvior. What starts as a friendship between the two leads to something more.
Do you think a relationship is stronger when there is an intense passionate connection at first, or when a friendship blossoms into an intimate relationship?
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I think a relationship is stronger when it starts out as a friendship and then blossoms because it provides a basis for the relationship. To start out with an intense passionate connection, I think it reveals that the two people do not know each other that well; therefore, do not like each other for who the other really is. For example, Fermina had fallen in love with Florentino, an intense passionate connection, when they both knew almost nothing about each other. I believe this is the reason why their relationship dissolved so quickly. I do not think an intense passionate connection is necessary without friendship. With a basis of friendship in a relationship, the two people understand more about each other, keeping the two together. Even when problems come along, it is easier for the two to solve. I think this is why Fermina was able to be married to Dr. Urbino for over fifty years. Although their friendship was not developed and strong enough to overcome problems, they were able to stay together because it was the basis of their relationship.
ReplyDeleteHowever, in an intense passionate connection, nothing holds the two together except their love. It can start a friendship, but without it, the two will not know each other well and one thing can break or distract their love for the other. I think this is why Fermina’s love disappeared from Florentino. Fermina’s trip back and growing maturity distracted her and even left her with a negative impression on Florentino.
I believe that a relationship is stronger when it begins as a friendship and then blossoms into an intimate relationship because the two people know more about each other. When two people have a friendship together it allows them to learn more about each other as time goes on. When a relationship gets started the two people need to know about each other. This will make the relationship more successful because the two people will have a chemistry with each other. The two people will know more about each other when they begin the relationship. The friendship allows the two people to see if they are meant to have a relationship with each other. I think that they must be sure that they are compatible with each other. Each person will be able to help each other with problems because they understand each other. The people in the relationship must like the other person for who that person is. Dr. Urbino and Fermina start their relationship off as friends and eventually ends up as a marriage of over 50 years. They understood each other and they loved each other for the people that they were.
ReplyDeleteI believe that a relationship is stronger when there is an intense passionate connection at first. The three things a relationship needs are intimacy, compassion, and commitment. I feel like a relationship that starts as a friendship is not as strong as it could be. It is missing aspects of a true intimate relationship. For example, Fermina and Dr. Urbino start a friendship that ends in a marriage. But let me ask you this question, are they really happy? Yes, they may be content, but they lose their intimacy, compassion, and commitment after a few years. I do not believe that they are the best match for each other. On the other hand, Florentino and Fermina have a strong first impression. Some would say this is love at first sight. The passion they share for one another blossoms into something stronger. This is evident at the end of chapter one, when the author shows that their flame is still on fire. They are meant for each other. The love they have for one another leads to an everlasting friendship.
ReplyDeleteI believe that a relationship is much stronger when a friendship blooms into an intimate relationship because you have created a trust and bond which is an essential part of building a foundation for a relationship. Without complete trust in one another there will never truly be peace between each other because the person will most likely always be wondering what the other person is doing. Also when you begin with an intense passionate connection sometime this love burns and consumes until there is nothing left. All you end up with is two people who may think that the relationship was just a fling with no true meaning because they didn't get to know each other. For example, the intense passionate connection the Florentino and Fermina had in the beginning turned out to be nothing for over fifty-one years. While Fermina and Dr. Urbino's friendship turned into a marriage and lasted for fifty-one years. I do however agree with Rosaleen when she asks "Are they really happy?" This is an important question and one that I think should be asked as we go through book, but as of now I would say that beginning a relationship with a friendship is better then beginning one with an intense passionate connection.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, I think that the basis of an intimate relationship is having a strong foundation built from a friendship. When people build a friendship with another person, they are able to be who they are and when learning there could possibly be more feelings within that friendship, it allows for both people (if interested) to experience the chance to have the best of both worlds. Both worlds are having a friend and a lover at the same time. Although at times friendships that become intimate relationships don't often work out, the con of this whole situation is that most oftenly a friendship cannot be the same after trying to be a relationship. It's unfortunate because friendships and relationships take time to build and it goes all to waste. But in the end, we come out learning from the experience.
ReplyDeleteI believe that a relationship is stronger when a friendship blossoms into an intimate relationship. Having a relationship based on an intimate passionate connection at first, may just be attraction to one another. As we all know, looks dont last forever and that passionate connection you once had for your partner can easily go as it came. But having a relationship based on friendship first, allows you to learn their personality, which will never change in a person as looks will.
ReplyDeleteI think a relationship is stronger when a friendship blossoms into an intimate relationship. Although I agree that a relationship needs intimacy, compassion, and commitment as Rosaleen had mentioned, I believe that friendship is the foundation of a relationship. I feel that when a relationship is started with an intense passionate connection at first, it is not the best situation. It would only be one part of the trio needed for a strong, healthy relationship. There would most likely be intimacy and not much else. Without the other two factors, intimacy will fade and there will be no spark anymore. Especially when the question is targeting the connection at first, people may mistake their initial feelings for the other person as lust and yearning. A strong relationship takes time and effort. It just doesn’t happen over night. A strong relationship requires a lot of work. Couples face many ups and downs throughout their relationship. It is good to have a good foundation with understanding and maturity to work out the problems encountered. I think that if a relationship is started with an intense passionate connection at first, the relationship is often rushed. People jump into relationships so fast and so physically attracted that sometimes they are not true to the other person in the relationship. You honestly don’t really know the other person when you rush into a relationship. An individual may lie in order to come across as a great person to appeal to the other individual. By starting with friendship, you are often more comfortable and actually know who the other person really is. Even with strong relationship, unfortunately, some do in fact end. Typically, when people jump into a relationship, they just right out. There isn’t much of a friend relationship afterwards. On the contrary, when friendship-blossomed relationships end, the couple generally stays cordial with one another, which is healthier. Although their friendship may not be as strong as it was prior to the start of the relationship, the friendship still exists after.
ReplyDeleteI think the passion should always be present, whether it be the passion for one another or a shared passion. Passion does not necessarily mean that the relationship will last. Friendship should be the basis of all relationship. Without friendship, it is hard for a relationship to survive. An intimate relationship that was first a friendship will most likely stand the tests of time. Knowing that there is a basis and that the relationship was not all about physical attraction shows that the two people in the relationship are willing to work together to make the relationship stronger. This doesn't mean that physical attraction is a bad thing or wrong in any way but during a fight or a heated argument all the physical stuff pretty much goes out the window.
ReplyDeleteI think that when a relationship blossoms from a friendship, it becomes stronger than a passionate connection. With a passionate connection, the person in love will madly try to get the other person's attention, but the other person might not know anything about his/her lover. With friendship, both people will know each other beforehand, so there wouldn't be any surprises between the two (backround, personality, secrets).
ReplyDeleteI think that it is stronger when the relationship first starts out with friendship which then blossoms into an intimate relationship. There’s no backbone to the relationship if it’s just a passionate and intimate connection. If it is passionate or intimate connection like love at first sight, then you didn’t get with that person because of their personality or unique characteristics. You wanted to be with that person because of looks or status. Plus, you will be bored because you rushed into things to fast when a healthy relationship should take time to blossom and grow strong. By creating a strong friendship at first, it shows that you can trust each other and commit to each other which are some of the most important things in having a strong relationship. After creating that friendship, I think it would be really special if it could blossom to an intimate relationship.
ReplyDeleteI believe that love is encountered in many ways. For instance, in this case it was more of love at first sight, while for others, it may simply be a friendship that evolved into a great relationship where the love comes from the bond that was forged from all the times spent together as friends. However, the love is only alive if the friendship is pure and the intentions are pure. It cannot be forced out of a temporary love for one another.
ReplyDeleteI think that the strength of a relationship depends on the people involved. For some people they might never take a chance with somebody they just met.They would have to know the person before they jump into a relationship with them. In some cases however, like in Love in the Time of Cholera when a person sees someone they feel was meant for them it's up to them to persue their feelings. I think that both cases have the potential to be strong and passionate, but like I said earlier it just depends on the people.
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