Referring to Rosaleen's question "Do you think a relationship is stronger when there is an intense passionate connection at first, or when a friendship blossoms into an intimate relationship?"
I believe that a relationship could blossom in many various situations. Regardless if there was a passionate connection at first or friendship at first, it all depends up to the couple or the individual as to where they would want to take their relationship. I can really relate to this question because my boyfriend, which I have been with for almost 5 years was just my friend at first. Never did I think I would consider him a boyfriend. But somehow our frienship grew stronger and as of now we have a strong and healthy relationship. Also if a relationship is intense at the very beginnning, that couple might be easily bored with their partner since all that excitement, curiosity, and intensity about having a relationship is done and over with. But as I said, it all depends on the couple and the choices they are willing to make to keep that relationship and bond strong.
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I agree with Mariezen, but I believe that a relationship is easier and stronger when there is already a friendship that has been formed. When there is already a friendship, you know the person's personality. From this you can decide whether or not you believe that it will complement your own personality. You know what you’re getting yourself into and you’ll have a relationship that will grow for the better or worse depending on how the personalities blend or clash. When a relationship has spurred from an intense passionate connection at first sight, you don’t know what you’re getting yourself into because you have to learn the person’s personality and everything about them. You need to spend extra time getting to know the person first. By starting a relationship based on a “love at first sight” connection, means that you are attracted to them simply by their appearance and would continue to follow through with the relationship because of the physical appearance. This is why I believe a relationship with a friendship is stronger. Appearance can come and go, but a person’s personality is always there and will never change. Would you go out with someone who has the looks but with no personality? Or would you go out with someone who has a really sweet personality but not that great looking? I would rather go out with someone who has a personality because you can always change a person’s appearance.
ReplyDeleteReferring also to Rosaleen's question "Do you think a relationship is stronger when there is an intense passionate connection at first, or when a friendship blossoms into an intimate relationship?"
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion for a relationship to work, obviously there must be a connection at first and that a friendship can blossom into an intimate one. There wouldn't be a relationship in the first place unless 2 people found something they like or have and interest in. So this is an example of love at first sight, but not necessary love all the time. As a relationship grows people may find things they like/dislike about the other person, but sometimes they can see potential. When i mean potential, I'm referring to a deeper relationship that is intimate. Best friends happen in life because two people find many similar likes and interests in the other person. In my opinion, two best friends can have an intimate relationship. The only problem is that those two people can feel wired by having an intimate relationship with someone they know so well. In conclusion I feel that best friends can have an intimate relationship.
My follow up question to the class is:
-Why don't best friends in life have an intimate relationship? Would you rather have an intimate relationship with some you just met, or with someone you've known for some time?
Referring to Marc's question, I'd rather have an intimate relationship with someone I've just met. If I were to have an intimate relationship with someone I've known for a long time, There would be some awkward moment in that relationship and things would not be the same and we would not get along as well as we used to.
ReplyDeleteIn connection to the main topic, I believe good relationships can blossom from an intimate relationship from the start. Since you wouldn't really know that person that well, it can build up through more interest in most cases.
I have to agree with Mariezen in that it all depends on the persons involved. I believe love can equally strong whether the relationship starts out as a passionate, intimate relationship or a as a friendship. If it starts out as a passionate, intense relationship the people may get bored but that may also push them to get to know each other better on a deeper level. In Love in the time of Cholera, Florentino and Fermina's relationship started out passionate. Florentino's goal was to become a suitor for Fermina not her best friend. However, over time they sent letters to each other and their relationship grew stronger. So, I don't think it matters how a relationship begins, but in the end you should definitely be with you best friend. If your relationship is nothing more then intimacy you have issues and your relationship may face many problems, especially if you want it to become more then intimate.
ReplyDeleteIn most cases, this question is entirely varied by a person’s perspective on a relationship. If one prefers an “intense passionate connection at first”, he/she will most likely be drawn to a person’s appearance. On the other hand, if one suggests a relationship be based on a blossoming friendship, he/she will find love through personality. In my opinion, the natural beauty of personality overweighs any possible type of beauty. Overtime, we will not always be able to keep our appearance, possession or talent forever. However, we can maintain our conscience, which is absolutely everlasting.
ReplyDeleteWhen there is a friendship involved first there are already some similarities that is shared. this becomes a good base, sometimes some relationships are spontaneous and it become very exciting to know more about the person. This is different for different people and different relationships. Then are some like Florentino where he is spontaneously in love and he learns about her through the letters that they both send to each other. Relationships can be but it like it takes two to tango, it also takes two to maek a relationship last.
ReplyDeleteI think that both sides are plausible. A strong intense connection at first may be strong enough to keep a couple connected for years and years. On the other hand, a strong intense connection can slowly fade away as a the couple learns more and more about each other. A friendship that becomes a relationship definitely has a strong base and has a greater potential to endure through time. This outcome, too, can deteriorate from becoming closer though. In my opinion, a friendship blossoming has a stronger chance to work, but an instantaneous connection is still very probable.
ReplyDeleteA relationship can grow stronger either way, whether it begins with friendship or love at first sight. I personally think building a friendship should come first because this connection is needed for a long lasting relationship. Intense passionate love comes and goes. A friendship consists of loyalty and trust and with those elements there is no friendship. Intense passionate connection can work for some people but the relationship between a couple may not be as strong as a relationship built first by friendship.
ReplyDeleteI believe that a relationship can come from anywhere. I have been in situations where life-long friends grew into lovers. I have also seen times where people have thought they found the right person at the exact moment they saw them. It all depends on the two people. I also don't think there is really a correct answer because there is no way to know how the brain will react to people and how the heart will react to people. It's all up in the air.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I think that there are many ways to form a long and lasting relationship, including "love at first sight" or a longing friendship that has been built into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, I think one that comes from a lasting friendship is stronger. Growing in a relationship that wasn't just an intense passionate connection at first means that there is a foundation and base for the friendship and you feel for the other person's personality. I think it isn't as strong as compared to an intense passionate connection at first because when you just jump into a relationship like that really fast, you're not totally sure of all the personality quirks that you'll be getting into. It's kind of blinded by certain things that help it last but can be easily ruined as well. At the same time, I think a relationship that started as an intense passionate connection at first can be strong as well because the couple can build and grow their relationship to become better. If they were really that passionate about the other person, they would be able to give and take in the relationship in order to make it the best one possible.
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